“As Is the Mother, So Is the Daughter: Leading by Example”

One day, my daughter did something that stopped me in my tracks.

She smacked her lips in frustration. I was shocked because I knew she had never done that before. Then it hit me—she learned it from me. When I’m annoyed or have to do something I don’t want to, I smack my lips without even thinking about it. That moment was a wake-up call.

As mothers, we are often the first and most influential example for our children. They watch us closely, soaking up not only what we say but, more importantly, what we do. The proverb “As is the mother, so is the daughter” (Ezekiel 16:44, KJV) reminds us of the undeniable truth: our children often mirror us. Whether it’s good habits or bad ones, our actions have a powerful impact on them.

Let’s dive into this scripture and explore how we can be intentional about the example we set for our children.

Scripture Reflections

1. Ezekiel 16:44 (KJV):

“Behold, every one that useth proverbs shall use this proverb against thee, saying, As is the mother, so is her daughter.”

This scripture reminds us of the direct influence we have on our children. They inherit more than our physical traits—they absorb our habits, attitudes, and ways of navigating life.

2. Proverbs 22:6 (KJV):

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

This verse highlights the importance of intentionality in parenting. The habits and values we instill in our children shape their future.

3. Titus 2:7 (KJV):

“In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity.”

As mothers, we are called to model godly behavior, showing our children the way to live through our own actions.

It’s easy to forget just how much our children are watching us. Here are a few examples that might resonate with you:

• The Tone of Your Words: Have you ever heard your child snap back with the same sharp tone you’ve unknowingly used when you’re tired or stressed?

• Handling Conflict: Children often mirror how we handle frustration. If we yell or shut down, they may pick up those same behaviors when faced with challenges.

• Expressions of Love: On the flip side, if we consistently show affection and speak words of encouragement, they learn to give and receive love in healthy ways.

What To Do

• Be Mindful of Your Habits: Pay attention to your reactions, words, and gestures, knowing that your children are watching.

• Model Positive Behaviors: Show kindness, patience, and gratitude, especially in stressful situations.

• Teach Through Actions: Let your children see you pray, read the Bible, and handle challenges with faith and grace.

What NOT To Do

• Don’t Dismiss Small Behaviors: Even little habits, like smacking your lips or rolling your eyes, can leave a big impression on young minds.

• Don’t Preach Without Practicing: Children are quick to spot inconsistencies. If you’re teaching them to be kind, make sure your actions match your words.

• Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself: We’re all human and make mistakes. The key is recognizing them and showing your children how to apologize and grow.

Say This Outloud Before Starting Your Day:

“I am a mindful and intentional mother, modeling love, faith, and patience for my children. Through my actions, I am teaching them to live a life that honors God.”

A Prayer for Today

Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of motherhood and the opportunity to shape the hearts and minds of my children. Help me to be a godly example, showing love, patience, and faith in all that I do. Guide my actions, Lord, so that they reflect Your goodness and teach my children to walk in Your ways. When I fall short, remind me of Your grace and help me to grow. May my children see You in me and learn to live a life that honors You. In Yahshua’s name, Amen.

Parenting is one of the greatest blessings and responsibilities God has given us.

Our children are watching, learning, and growing based on what we model for them. While it’s humbling to realize how much influence we have, it’s also an incredible opportunity to shape their lives with intentionality.

Take a moment to reflect: What behaviors, attitudes, or habits are your children picking up from you? Are they seeing love, patience, and faith? Remember, it’s never too late to grow and adjust. With God’s help, we can be the example our children need to see.

Let’s commit to being mindful mothers who model a life of faith, love, and grace for our children to follow. Let’s remember the proverb: “As is the mother, so is the daughter.”